Am I Too Old School????

[duckman1911]

Originally Posted by Bluechip

And I don't doubt that your son is a fine gentleman....as I raised mine the same way.

But I noticed with my daughter I had to be a little more gentle because she would get all emotional and upset and would not want to talk to me.....

So I approached it from the aspect of how special a daughter is to a father. And that I'm not trying to embarrass her by wanting to meet her "man" upfront.

I told her that a dad expects his son to do right because I taught him but I don't know what to expect out of her "man" because I did not teach him.

This helped break the ice. Don't make the situation uncomfortable for her. When you finally meet or talk to her "man", don't brow beat him but just explain how precious she is to you and as a father, you are her protector and you would like to get to know him a little better.

Don't get him on the phone and scare him, just have a father/boyfriend talk with him. Whatever you do, keep the communication line open with your daughter.

Don't be enough of a hard azz that she won't come to you when or if she does have a problem or a situation where she may need her fathers advice. If your an azz hole, she will never come to you because she knows you will fuss.

You can fuss at boys, but you have to love on your daughters while you fuss at them or they will close you out of their life.....

Been there with our daughter. Its now our sons turn. I just want him to understand what a man expects of a young man asking for a relationship with his daughter. You respect her at all times.