Anyone here been divorced?

[southern151]

Originally Posted by Pool Boy

Be prepared for your ex-wife to belittle you to your son. She will tell him how you did not love him or you would not have left. She will use him as a tool to manipulate and beat you down, and she will sacrifice the well-being of your son to meet her need to bash you. Just be prepared for her to do things you never would have imagined she could/will do.

It is possible that your divorce could be different and maybe you will get along...do not trust her. You are going to see the biggest case of making her the victim and making it all about her...I will say it again...be prepared for her to say things to your son about you that are not true and you will never be prepared for what is gonna happen.

I hope it comes out different for you.

I know what you are talking about here because I have seen it numerous times. This is not always the case though.

My parents divorced and while they were pretending to still be a happy couple, life sucked!!! Once they split, it was better. My mom nor my dad really ever said anything bad about one another to the kids. Occasionally, something would slip but, it was followed by, "I'm sorry" or, "that's not the truth."

You are right though because it does happen but, not in every case.

Look at all your options before you throw in the towel but, and I speak from being the kid in the middle, don't stay for the kids. It's harder on the kids than you realize.

As far as the kids running the house, that's hell! My wife and I nearly fell off before we really got started due to this and he's a little'un! I'd say one thing and she'd say another that contradicted what I was trying to tell our son. Kids are tough and they can really run a marriage down if you let it. I finally had to tell my wife that no child, my own or others would run the home that I've worked so hard to keep. I guess, after numerous other talks/lectures, she has started to agree with me!?

Good luck my friend and remember that no matter what anyone here tells you is best, it is only their experience. Each and every marriage is as unique as those involved in it. You have to do what you feel is best for you.