[duckman1911]

Originally Posted by MathGeek

Marriage is a public institution and a binding contract that is dissolved through a process in the public courts. Being a representative republic, the laws that govern that court process are determined by the legislature. Some attempts have been made in this forum to assert that the court process is in extremely unfair to adulterous husbands.

Saying that many adulterous husbands who lose most of their possessions and end up paying alimony and child support for a long time are "getting what they deserve" is not rendering an unbiblical judgement, it is taking the opposite viewpoint in a public discussion on divorce policy and practice in the State of Louisiana.

Adulterous husbands say, "The divorce outcomes are grossly unfair." It is not an unbiblical judgement to say, "They seem reasonable to me."

Adulterous husbands put the courts and society as a whole in the uncomfortable position of needing to make real decisions in policy and practice regarding division of assets, alimony, child support, and child custody.

They should not complain of being judged when their behavior is what led to the necessity of policy and practice in these delicate matters. ANY policy or decision regarding division of assets, alimony, custody, and support is in some sense a judgment. Adulterous husbands complain because they wish for judgments harsher on their wives and more favorable to them.

I wasn't born yesterday, and I did not just crawl out from under a rock. The idea that one can separate serial adultery on the part of a husband and claim there are not severe deficiencies as a father is ridiculous.

The adulterous husband has knowingly and deliberately broken perhaps the most important vow of his life, provided an example for his children of abominable behavior, given his wife and the law just cause to severely reduce his involvement in his children's lives, and most likely engaged in a long pattern of deception and lying to hide the evil behavior, destroying all real trust with his wife, children, and others he lied to. Is it a mystery to husbands when they decide to commit adultery that their family will probably be subjected to the judgment of the divorce courts as a result, and that the outcomes will be much less favorable than had the husband remained faithful?

This is not to say that relationships cannot be mended and restored and the husband and father cannot ever become a good and contributing father in his children's lives. It is to say that the road to progress is hastened and strengthened by accepting the consequences meted out by the court, resolving to make amends by wholeheartedly accepting the court's orders, and letting that serve as a proof and as a foundation that the (former) husband and (ongoing) father intends to do right by the family.

An ongoing wrestling match with the mother and with the orders of the court does not bless the children.

I think you based your rebutal on a point that you missed. Just as many women cheat but the system is far more lenient on them.