I've had a similar situation...my ex POS has never been anything but disruptive in my sons life but God saw fit to end the visitation. The ex has no interest in seeing his son or showing up for ballgames,etc so I don't have to deal with the house to house chaos. But...my son was always angry and heartbroken. Jeff has been a part of our lives for years as a friend, but things changed about a year ago and he was very straightforward with my son about respect towards me and him. Jeff takes him hunting, fishing, plays with him, hugs on him and gets on his arse when he gets out of line. At first, my son puffed up about it...but I stood firm by Jeffs side and let him know that I backed him as a parent. My son didn't like it at first...but now he has blossomed! So much that he finally realized what a REAL dad was like and found the courage to tell his POS dad to go to hell. I will forever be grateful to Jeff for the examples he sets, the lessons he teaches and for making my son a better young man!!!
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