We all get to the point in our marriage where you want to throw your hands up and say "I quit!", but that's easy...You have to stop and remember that you married one another for a reason and that reason didn't just disappear over night...You have to sit down sometimes and have a SERIOUS heart to heart with one another about what you need out of the relationship and how you really feel...It is not always pretty, but a lot more effective than letting things get worse and worse without talking or counseling...I do agree in the "good christian counseling" part because it will make you take an honest look at your relationship, generally without being a "he said, she said" blow up...Communication is the key and a big problem that I see in marriages is one the honeymoon phase is over, you drift apart...You both start doing your own things and then start resenting one another because you are on diffferent pages and don't remember how to get back to where you were...Kids are a blessing, but do put a strain on any relationship...Everyone needs to have "couple time" at least once a week where you can focus on nothing else but each other and remember what caused you to fall in love in the first place...
Just my opinion; hope it helps